CrossFit ruined my marriage.
At least, that’s what my estranged husband might say.
Before CrossFit, I was mild, docile, and never wanted to cause trouble.
But CrossFit changed more than my lats.
It gave me the courage to do things that were hard. After all, CrossFit, like great sex, is mostly in your mind. When you apply pressure to a person through a challenging WOD, their real nature comes out–for better or worse. Quite often, how a person reacts to a WOD is how they will react in everyday situations.
There are enough blog posts on why you should date a CrossFitter, and most have to do with the body and sex and so on. But what makes a person great is the mind and soul and character.
So, what do you see at CrossFit?
- Faithfulness: Do you want to roll your eyes when someone tells you that [INSERT ANY EXERCISE PROGRAM HERE] is just as good as CrossFit?
- Dedication: When you miss a WOD, or go to a different class, do your friends worry about you?
- Endurance: Do you walk through the door, having quit already? Or do you give it your all until the clock runs out?
- Social Skills: Do you talk to the people around you? Or do you sit in the corner, hoping nobody sees you?
- Personal Responsibility: When you screw up do you admit it or blame it on your shoes/calluses/ponytail/big blue stupid kettelbell…
- Healthy pride: It’s okay to yell or fist bump or collapse to the floor smiling when you PR.
- Humility: Actions make a person great–not words.
- Attitude: It doesn’t matter how fast or strong you are; or if others are faster or stronger–but what kind of a person are you, really? How do you attack your WOD? That’s the proof of your character. That shows how you live life.
- Strength of character is the most attractive quality a person can have–and CrossFit can help develop it.
Now that I’m discovering who I am and who I WANT to be, I think a lot about these (and other) attributes. Life should be a steady work-in-progress, where we are always striving to improve some area of our lives. Whether it’s to relax more, to have fun, to pay more attention to detail, to be bolder–whatever it is for you, these things play out daily in the box. There is a body/mind connection, nearly indescribable, that shapes our character. Nobody’s perfect, but at least in CrossFit, we’re working towards something better.
And this is why CrossFit has ruined my love life–past, present, and future.
The past, because it gave me the strength to capsize the boat.
The present, because I’m currently in a new boat, and it’s a lot smaller (like…only room for me).
The future, because I’m convinced only another CrossFitter could eventually help me paddle upstream.
June 23rd, 2014 at 10:34 am
it’s all about being fit and loving yourself first
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June 23rd, 2014 at 10:37 am
I agree. It took me a long time to understand that!
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June 23rd, 2014 at 10:49 am
Crossfit actually gave me the strength to keep rowing when our marriage got rough and we pulled through and are in such a better place. You’ll find the right person who will understand and appreciate what crossfit has done for you. I’m a firm believer of that!
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June 23rd, 2014 at 7:24 pm
Wow, Val! I’m really glad that CrossFit helped you get through the tough times! I keep telling the kids that CrossFit is my therapy–and I think it is. I’m starting to feel more like a real person again.
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June 23rd, 2014 at 9:41 pm
For me Crossfit showed me that I realy CAN do something and to realy belive in myself. In the past I always said thinks like “I can’t get it”, “I can’t stand society” or “I have to hide because there is nothing that I can do right”. Now, since I’m doing crossfit that changed rapidly and that changed my complete life. Your whole life depents on your way of thinking. This is what i learned.
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June 25th, 2014 at 9:05 pm
You’re absolutely right! It’s amazing how CrossFit helps in all areas of your life. I know it has for me!
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